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Avoiding the Fire

September 26th, 2008 Filed under: Uncategorized by Shayna

A year after I moved into the basement apartment I rent in Chevy Chase, I set off the fire alarm.

I assure you that this was not because I don’t know how to cook, or because I lack common sense about the use of a kitchen fan. Rather, I was frying breadfruit (see, now you’re starting to understand) and even though the whir of the fan over the stovetop was blaring and the door to my apartment has been swung open in a generous arc, the smoke produced from the frying was simply too much for my tiny abode.

When the fire alarm started beeping, I hopped around beneath it, furiously waving a kitchen towel in a vain attempt to beg submission. Before I could will the alarm to cease beeping, however, the security alarm on the house was triggered. I froze  in panic. My landlady was not home and the house alarm had never gone off in the time I was living there. I called my landlady’s cell phone. No answer. I called the alarm company, prepared to offer the password. I got the answering machine. Within a few minutes, however, the alarm had stopped and the neighbors had hopefully stopped positioning themselves to attack an invisible intruder. Just when I thought the worst was over, the fire department was knocking on the front door.

Regaling my landlady with this turn of events was not something I was looking forward to. When she returned home later that day, her reaction was exactly what I thought it would be: anger and false accusations. She’s very easily agitated and knowing that the fire department had arrived and worse, that the neighbors in our upscale neighborhood had seen them (the horror!), she was livid at her obviously incompetent tenant.

After the fire alarm event, I limited the amount of cooking I did in my apartment. I cautiously heated pots at the minimum level needed and almost always had both a kitchen fan and oscillating fan to reduce the smoke of cooking. Even though what happened was unintentional, the fear of what might happen again (and what my landlady would do!) crippled me into abandoning my Susie Homemaker ways.

This week, as I’ve been dealing with some personal struggles, I have realized that in my Christian walk, I often react the same way that I did to the fire alarm. Even though everything turns out just fine, I always fixate on the worst of the experience. I consciously know that trials are opportunities for character building, but sometimes it’s so hard to become frozen in fear when dealing with them.

2 Timothy 1:7 reminds us, though, that “God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self discipline.” Whatever you may be dealing with this week, remember that there’s nothing to fear. Romans 8:37-39 says that nothing can separate us from God’s love. He always has our best interest at heart and no matter what happens, He’s still in charge.

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September 17th, 2008 Filed under: Uncategorized by Shayna

Growing up, my West Indian mother would have been horrified if I even implied that I was going to wear black to a wedding. Black, after all, is the color of funerals and mourning. It would be unfavorable to wear such a color, and display such ignorance about it, at a wedding.

The number of weddings that I will be attending this fall is growing steadily, though. As Phil’s friends begin to settle down, ornate invitations with gold embossing and delicate sheets of tissue paper have been arriving weekly. RSVP cards indicating that he “plus one” will be in attendance are being mailed and flight reservations and rental cars are being reserved.

This weekend, we will be attending the nuptial ceremonies of his friend in New York—an American friend from college marrying his Chinese love.

Ordinarily, I would be completely confident about the experience. I’ve already mentally arranged which groups of friends will be at which weddings, and thus, which formal dresses can be recycled and when. For a woman who loves dressing up, I’m incredibly practical about these things. I hate buying dresses, shoes, or accessories that I know I’ll only wear once or twice.

So, much to my mother’s chagrin, I decided on a fitted black dress with tiers of delicate ruffles below the waist for this weekend. This was before Phil told me about the proposal.

Phil’s parents are jewelry manufacturers and it was with Phil’s help that his friend produced the perfect diamond solitare and presented it in a soft, white box. His friend’s fiancé accepted the proposal, but not before reacting in horror to its presentation.

Unbenownst to either Phil or his friend, white is traditionally bad luck in Chinese culture. The next day, Phil quickly repackaged the ring in a red box—a symbol of Chinese good luck.

Two nights ago, I emailed a Chinese friend to educate me about cultural propriety. Her informative reply stated that a black dress was perfectly fine (and non-offensive); that I should avoid either white (bad luck) or red (the bride’s color). She also noted that wearing black to a Thai wedding would be very bad indeed, but to a Chinese wedding, it would be perfectly fine.

I would have known none of these things without her thorough instructions.

With our evangelistic meetings rapidly approaching, I can’t help but think of just how much we need to be in prayer about being culturally sensitive to those we will be ministering to. The Holy Spirit will undoubtedly be among us, but thoughtfulness about the comfort of others extends far beyond just what we wear, but how we talk to others, interact with them, and show respect.

More importantly, though, in the same way that the small “plus one” RSVP cards generated a flurry of excited and inquisitive emails, we also should be happily planning who our “plus ones” will be for the meetings.

Mark 16:15 reminds us that Jesus Christ cannot return to earth until we have preached the message to all the world. Which friends, neighbors, or colleagues have you yet to introduce as your church family? Unlike a catered wedding, you can also show up with as many hungry people as you want! We won’t stop you at the door. I promise.

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